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The power of showing up : how parental presence shapes who our kids become and how their brains get wired / Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.

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  • 1 of 3 copies available at LARL/NWRL Consortium.
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Location Call Number / Copy Notes Barcode Shelving Location Status Due Date
Red Lake Falls Public Library 649.1 SIE (Text) 35500006262578 Main Available -
Moorhead Public Library 649.1 SIE (Text) 33500013186630 New Checked out 10/02/2020
Moorhead Public Library 649.1 SIE (Text) 33500013186648 New Checked out 09/23/2020

Record details

  • ISBN: 9781524797713
  • ISBN: 1524797715
  • Physical Description: xiv, 238 pages : illustrations ; 25 cm
  • Edition: First edition.
  • Publisher: New York : Ballantine Books, [2020]

Content descriptions

Formatted Contents Note:
What it means to show up -- Why do some parents show up, while others don't? : an introduction to attachment science -- Beyond helmets and kneepads : helping your child feel SAFE -- The value of being known : helping your child feel SEEN -- Presence joins us as part of a calming whole : helping your kids feel SOOTHED -- Putting all the S's together : helping your kids feel SECURE -- Conclusion: From the playground to the dorm room : a look into the future.
Summary, etc.:
"One of the very best scientific predictors for how any child turns out--in terms of happiness, academic success, leadership skills, and meaningful relationships--is whether at least one adult in their life has consistently shown up for them. In an age of scheduling demands and digital distractions, this might sound like a tall order. But as bestselling authors Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson reassuringly explain, showing up doesn't take a lot of time, energy, or money. Instead, showing up means offering a quality of presence. And it's simple to provide once you understand the four building blocks of a child's healthy development. Every child needs to feel what Siegel and Bryson call the Four S's: Safe: We can't always insulate a child from injury or hurt feelings. But when we give a child a sense of safe harbor, she will be able to take the needed risks for growth and change. Seen: Truly seeing a child means we pay attention to his emotions--both the positive and the negative--and strive to attune to what's happening in his mind beneath his behavior. Soothed: Soothing isn't about providing a life of ease, but instead teaching your child how to cope when life gets hard, and showing him that you'll be there with him along the way. Secure: When you reliably provide safety, focus on seeing her, and soothe her in times of need, she will trust in a feeling of secure attachment. And thrive! Based on the latest brain and attachment research, The Power of Showing Up shares stories, scripts, simple strategies, illustrations and tips for honoring the Four S's effectively in all kinds of situations--when our kids are struggling or when they are enjoying success; when we are consoling, disciplining, or arguing with them; and even when we are apologizing for the times we don't show up for them. Demonstrating that mistakes and missteps are reparable and that it's never too late to mend broken trust, this is a powerful guide to cultivating your child's healthy emotional landscape"-- Provided by publisher.

  • Booklist Reviews : Booklist Reviews 2019 November #2
    Siegel and Bryson (The Whole-Brain Child, 2015) successfully coauthor another parenting title, this time investigating how parental presence effects a child's brain development. Using their "Four S" method, they describe how a reliable parental presence in a child's life leads to the child feeling Safe, Seen, Soothed and Secure. The Fours S's create an environment of "secure attachment" that is "absolutely key to optimal healthy development." As in their previous books, the new title relies upon scientific study to support its conclusions, and readers who prefer less anecdotal evidence and more rigorous analysis will be most impressed. Siegel and Bryson provide relatable real world examples and the all-important parenting guide staple, the offering of specific advice for handling various situations, is abundant. The authors are serious and cogent, and lists, talking points, and illustrations drive home certain points and provide helpful scenarios. Parents looking for solid research delivered in an accessible manner will find Siegel and Bryson getting the job done well yet again. Copyright 2019 Booklist Reviews.

Author Notes

Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA, the founding co-director of the UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center, and the executive director of the Mindsight Institute. A graduate of Harvard Medical School, Dr. Siegel is the author of several books, including the New York Times bestsellers Aware and Brainstorm, and is the co-author with Tina Payne Bryson of The Whole-Brain Child, No-Drama Discipline, and The Yes Brain. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife, with welcome visits from their adult son and daughter.

Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D., is the founder and executive director of the Center for Connection, a multidisciplinary clinical practice, and of the Play Strong Institute, a center devoted to the study, research, and practice of play therapy through a neurodevelopmental lens. She is a licensed clinical social worker, providing pediatric and adolescent psychotherapy and parenting consultations. Dr. Bryson keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, clinicians, and industry leaders around the world. She earned her Ph.D. from the University of Southern California and lives in Los Angeles with her husband and three children.

Subject: Parenting > Psychological aspects.
Parent and child > Psychological aspects.
FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Parenting / General.
PSYCHOLOGY / Developmental / Child.
PSYCHOLOGY / Cognitive Neuroscience & Cognitive Neuropsychology.
Parent and child > Psychological aspects.
Parenting > Psychological aspects.

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